autism, family, Morgan

Visiting IF-ville

“If you worry too much about what might be, and wonder too long about what might have been, you will ignore and completely miss what is.”  From the “Happiness” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.

In my early years of parenting Morgan, I remember visiting If-ville on several occasions.  Every time I saw another child on the autism spectrum making bigger strides, I would question our course.  I would question what might have been, if we’d had access to an earlier diagnosis, if we could have afforded more therapy, if we’d had more knowledge of the best practices,…  I found myself repeatedly mulling over missed opportunities and bygone possibilities.  It was a lot like riding on the roundabout with the Grissw0lds, 

It’s been quite a while since I visited IF-ville.  I found it to be an enormous waste of time.  It also created lots of unnecessary baggage that I don’t have the energy to lug around anymore.

Finally realizing our journey is, and should be, uniquely our own, has allowed me to genuinely celebrate the success of others, without feeling like I missed the mark.  It has freed me to celebrate and enjoy Morgan for the remarkable young woman she is.  I wouldn’t miss that for anything. Below Morgan is pictured with her nutcracker collection.  That’s my girl! 🙂

I do occasionally look to the future “what if’s”, and new possibilities we might want to visit, when the time is right for her.

Until Next Time,

Know The Hope!

Tammy

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“I’m Amazing”

“I will give thanks and praise to You.  For I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14

Crown Hat and Flag Horn

When Morgan accomplishes something she’s proud of, she is quick to say, “I’m Amazing!”  As her mom, I agree.  She fascinates me.  As a person on the autism spectrum, she has her share of challenges, but she also has some pretty incredible strengths.  I believe she has something unique to offer the world.  All children are “fearfully and wonderfully made”.  They are All Amazing.  It looks like Sesame Street agrees. 😉 Check out this wonderful new resource; autism.sesamestreet.org

I’ll go a little further here to say, each of us, no matter our faults and flaws, has something to offer the world that no one else can.  As we enter this season of thanks, celebrate yourself, how you’re made, and the One who made you. 😉

Until Next Time,

Know The Hope!

Tammy Vice

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“Taking in a Second Wind”

Our family has two graduations and a wedding coming up this year.  We are excited and look forward to the days of celebration.   In the meantime, there will be a lot of planning and preparation days, and probably a few detours along the way.

Raise your hands if your life is a continuous stream of blissful perfection,… I know. 😉  I have a few non eventful days, and other days when there are more hills and hurdles than I care to maneuver.  But then there are moments, little moments in the middle of those days, that give me a second wind.  Allison will call to share some good news, or to rant about something that makes us both laugh out loud.  Morgan will come up with yet another reason to bake a cake, or have a parade.  And you know what?… I heat up the oven, or grab a hat and a drum, because it gives her a second wind.  Who says we have to save all the celebration for the end of the race?  Here’s to the little incentives that keep us pounding the pavement on the way to the finish line.

Hula Hoop 2   Hula Hoop

Until Next Time,

Know The Hope

Tammy

 

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