“If you worry too much about what might be, and wonder too long about what might have been, you will ignore and completely miss what is.” From the “Happiness” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.
In my early years of parenting Morgan, I remember visiting If-ville on several occasions. Every time I saw another child on the autism spectrum making bigger strides, I would question our course. I would question what might have been, if we’d had access to an earlier diagnosis, if we could have afforded more therapy, if we’d had more knowledge of the best practices,… I found myself repeatedly mulling over missed opportunities and bygone possibilities. It was a lot like riding on the roundabout with the Grissw0lds,
It’s been quite a while since I visited IF-ville. I found it to be an enormous waste of time. It also created lots of unnecessary baggage that I don’t have the energy to lug around anymore.
Finally realizing our journey is, and should be, uniquely our own, has allowed me to genuinely celebrate the success of others, without feeling like I missed the mark. It has freed me to celebrate and enjoy Morgan for the remarkable young woman she is. I wouldn’t miss that for anything. Below Morgan is pictured with her nutcracker collection. That’s my girl! 🙂
I do occasionally look to the future “what if’s”, and new possibilities we might want to visit, when the time is right for her.
Until Next Time,
Know The Hope!