Sometimes We Need to Be Absent, to Stay Present

“Be still and know that I am God…” Psalms 46:10

I am a doer, a gluer, a fixer, a fighter, a cheerleader, a believer… I am MOM to a “typically” amazing young woman and an “autistically” amazing young woman.  I have been blessed to ride both of the mom carousels.  It’s wonderful, and never boring.  However, it does get me a little dizzy and nauseous at times. 😉 Seriously though, I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.  I’ve always been so busy teaching my daughters.   I never thought about what they might be learning when they see me going nonstop.

Two years ago something very necessary happened.   I had surgery for a kidney stone, which sidelined me for a couple of weeks.  I learned two things.  Number one, I’m taking better care of myself because I never want to do that again.  AND secondly, the world continues to spin, even when I’m not there slapping at it.  I am loved and I matter, but I am not THAT important.  😉  What a relief!

As another “Holiday Season” comes flying at my calendar, splattering surprise event bombs, I’ve learned that it’s ok for me to seek shelter when necessary.  Morgan loves to put things on her calendar that she’s looking forward to.  I have taken a lesson from her.  I draw little houses on random pages that remind me to stop.  If that requires me to be absent from something, in Morgan’s words, “It’ll be alright”.  I do LOVE the hustle and bustle, celebrating with family and friends, but I also need the occasional “Silent Night”.  It’s in those moments that I’m able to fully appreciate the countless blessings in my life.

Morgan has the art of relaxing down to a science.  On one occasion, I remember asking her to do something, and she informed me; “I’m busy relaxing.”  😉  Pictured below is Morgan getting ready for a big night on the town with mom and dad.  Next to that is Allison gearing up for Black Friday shopping with dad, coffee in hand.  I snapped that shot, smiled, and went back to bed. 😉

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Get the picture?  Hope so.  I’ve said it before.  I really want to be present for my family, my life.  I want the same thing for my girls.  I want them to see that sometimes we need to be absent, to stay present.  May you all have a blessed and balanced holiday season.

Until Next Time,



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